
North Carolina slowed all the way down this weekend. A predicted historical Snowstorm. Snow day. Ice storm. Our first snow day together.
The world outside went quiet, the quiet that presses you inward. He promised breakfast in bedโsaid it easily, like warmth was a given. And in that moment, it was. Safety felt less like a concept. It was more like a posture: bodies tucked in, heat humming, nowhere we needed to be but here. I honor the quiet this time brings.
What I learned this weekend came in small, honest ways.
He has a tendency to fuss about things that bring me comfort. My favorite t-shirtโwell worn, soft from years of loving, holes that tell the truth of time. An uneven drawstring on the sweatsuit he bought me, something I barely noticed until he did.
I donโt take it as criticism. Iโm learning itโs his way of caring out loudโwanting things right, wanting things better, wanting me wrapped in what he believes I deserve. Still, I smile. Comfort doesnโt always need correcting.
Then thereโs the contrast that makes me chuckle.
This man loves action moviesโthe louder, the better. Yet Sylvieโs Love has him standing up, cheering, eyes teary, emotions spilling over without apology. I watch him from the corner of the sofa and think, There you are. The tenderness we donโt always name finds its way out anyway.
Later, he sleeps. I study the rise and fall of his chest like itโs a prayer. Each time my phone rings, he wakesโevery single time.
โEveryone okay?โ
That question stays with me. The instinct to protect. To check. To stay alert even in rest.
And me?
Iโm learning something quieter, maybe harder. Iโm learning to rest in my uncertainty of us. Not rush clarity. Not demand guarantees. Not brace for what hasnโt happened.
That is my good in loving betterโallowing presence without possession, warmth without certainty, love without over-managing the outcome.
Snow melts. Ice thaws.
And still, there is comfort.
Not named.
Not explained.
Just felt.
It moves through the quiet of the house. It moves through shared warmth. It provides the permission to be where I am without reaching for whatโs next. Godโs presence this weekend didnโt arrive with answers.
It came as refugeโsteady, unhurried, close. Meeting me in the pause. Holding me while nothing is resolved.
Iโm learning that loving better sometimes looks like staying. Letting uncertainty sit beside me. Trusting that grace doesnโt rush what is still becoming.
โThe Lord is good to those who wait for Him,
to the soul who seeks Him.โ
โ Lamentations 3:25
A gentle question:
Where might God be sitting with you right now, simply asking you to stay? Please share your thoughts.
Be braver,
Michelle๐ฟ
Sylvie’s Love with Tessa Thompson
The Grey with Liam Neeson
Buck and The Preacher with Sidney Poitier
300 with Gerard Butler
ยฉ๏ธIntimately Worded, Michelle.

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