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  • Easy Like Sunday Morning

    We had plans for Sunday—church, a family movie, and a little time together before everyone scattered back into their own corners of life. The plan was simple, but it didn’t unfold the way we expected. We purchased our tickets to see The Odyssey, only to discover that the theater was full. Apparently, the rest of the world had the same idea.

    Sundays, Sunflowers, Solace.

    For a moment, I felt frustrated. We had made the effort, gotten ourselves together, and followed through on what we thought the day would be. But maybe there was something worth noticing in a theater full of people. Maybe we are all tired. Maybe we are all looking for somewhere to place our attention for a couple of hours that isn’t the news, the bills, the uncertainty, the grief, the division, or the weight of responsibilities we cannot control. It is hard out here. People are weary. And sometimes we just want to sit in the dark and let someone else’s story hold us for a while.

    So instead of fighting the interruption, we went home—and somehow, home became the better plan.

    We had a family Bible study on Job chapters 2 and 3, and it turned into a deeper conversation than I expected. It was the kind of moment where Scripture stops being something you simply read and becomes something you wrestle with together. We talked about adversity, about suffering that doesn’t always come with explanation, and about the temptation to assign meaning too quickly when someone is hurting. We sat with Job in the ashes, grieving what had been lost, and we talked about God—not the neat, packaged version that gives us answers for everything, but the God who remains present even when there are no easy answers.

    I found myself thinking about how often we try to escape discomfort. We scroll, we shop, we work, we watch television, we make plans, we fill our calendars, we stay busy. Some of it is healthy and necessary, but some of it is simply our way of saying, “Please, Lord, let me think about something else for a minute.” And I understand that impulse. But Sunday reminded me that sometimes interruption is an invitation—not necessarily to suffer more, and not to become overly spiritual about disappointment, but simply to be present.

    Because perhaps a softer life is not a life without disappointment; it is a life where disappointment doesn’t get the final word. That feels important to remember. A soft life does not mean everything goes according to plan. It does not mean the theater is always open, or that people will not disappoint us, or that life will not shift unexpectedly. Softness is not the absence of hard things. Maybe softness is what allows us to experience hard things without letting them consume everything else.

    We can be frustrated and still grateful, disappointed and still hopeful, tired and still tender. We can acknowledge that something didn’t go the way we wanted without deciding that the entire day—or our entire life—is ruined. There is freedom in that.

    The movie didn’t happen, but the family time did. And maybe that was the story we were meant to live that day. There is something sacred about allowing a day to become something different than what we planned without declaring it a loss. Maybe that is part of a softer life too—not a life without frustration or disappointment, but a life where disappointment does not get the final word.

    We came home, opened Job, talked, laughed a little, and wrestled with hard questions. For a few hours, we weren’t trying to fix the world; we were simply sitting together in it. Easy like Sunday morning—not because everything was easy, but because peace sometimes arrives when we stop insisting that the day go according to plan.

    Maybe God was not in the movie we missed. Maybe He was in the living room, in the conversation, in the willingness to stay. And maybe when life quietly closes a door, we don’t always need to immediately figure out why. Sometimes we can simply go home, be together, open the Word, and see what God might say there.

    Perhaps this is part of learning to live softly: not expecting life to always be gentle, but trusting that we do not have to become hard just because life is not. We can let disappointment be real without letting it become the story. We can loosen our grip on the plan and make room for what is actually happening.

    Because sometimes the blessing is not in getting what we planned. Sometimes it is discovering that what we received was enough. And sometimes Sunday morning feels easy not because life is easier, but because for a little while, we remember where to place our attention—home, family, the Word, God, and each other.

    And that, in the end, was enough.

    Being brave,

    Michelle 🌻🌻

    ©️Intimately Worded, Michelle.

  • Touching Grass

    Sundays have become sacred in ways I never expected.

    Seeking Soulness

    Not because they’re perfect. Not because all the problems disappear before the weekend ends. But because Sunday gives me permission to stop performing long enough to remember who I am.

    Lately, life has been… whooping me.

    Work has demanded more than I thought I had to give. Healing has required honesty instead of speed. Relationships have invited me to trust instead of control. Even joy has asked something of me—to stay present long enough to receive it.

    And yet…

    I am flourishing.

    I don’t say that because everything is easy. I say it because my roots have gone deeper than my circumstances.

    I’ve noticed something about myself. Every Sunday, I seem to spiritually “touch grass.”

    The world uses that phrase to mean getting outside, disconnecting, and remembering real life. For me, it’s something deeper. It’s sitting with God without rushing the conversation. It’s laughing with my children. It’s reading words that stretch my thinking. It’s praying for strangers on my SoftLife Channel while God quietly ministers to me. It’s going to the gym because my body deserves kindness, not punishment. It’s watching horses stare back at me as if creation itself recognizes the need for stillness.

    Sunday reminds me that I don’t have to earn peace.

    I simply have to notice it.

    This season has taught me that flourishing isn’t the absence of hardship. Flourishing is continuing to bloom while carrying the weight of real life. It is choosing gratitude without pretending. It is allowing yourself to rest without apologizing. It is believing God is just as present in the ordinary as He is in the miraculous.

    Maybe that’s why I look forward to Sundays now.

    They are my reset.

    My reminder that I am more than deadlines, responsibilities, unanswered questions, and unfinished goals. They remind me that before I am a therapist, mother, writer, friend, or dreamer, I am God’s daughter.

    That identity asks nothing of me except to come close.

    Tomorrow will bring another week. There will be emails to answer, decisions to make, people to care for, and dreams still waiting for their appointed time.

    But today…

    Today I am touching grass.

    Today I am letting my soul exhale.

    Today I am remembering that grace grows quietly, often beneath the surface, long before anyone sees the bloom.

    And perhaps that is flourishing after all.

    Do well in your journey. You’re worthy.

    Graced for more,

    Michelle

    ©️Intimately Worded, Michelle

  • Staying Present with God

    Sacred Spaces: Coffee & Time

    We often meet God in our worry—in the before and the after. We cry out when we’re waiting, and we rejoice when the prayer is answered. Yet somewhere in between, we can miss the quiet ways He has been carrying us all along.

    We fight harder and longer than necessary, trying to control the narrative. We pray for what we want, often imagining the best version of what we hope life will become. We hold tightly to outcomes, believing we know what will bring us peace.

    But God is not only concerned with our destination. He is deeply invested in our becoming.

    Somehow, with tenderness only He possesses, God caresses the heart into what is necessary for our lives. He gently loosens our grip on what we thought we needed and teaches us to trust what He is cultivating instead. His work is rarely rushed. It is intentional. It is loving. It is holy.

    This week reminded me that God is rarely as loud as my worries. There were moments I wanted answers, reassurance, and certainty. Instead, He gave me enough grace for the next conversation, the next client, the next morning, the next breath. Looking back, I realized He wasn’t waiting for me at the end of the week. He had been walking with me through every ordinary moment I almost overlooked.

    Perhaps that’s what staying present with God really is—not waiting until the blessing arrives to recognize His faithfulness, but noticing Him while the story is still unfolding.

    Staying present with God means resisting the urge to live only in yesterday’s regrets or tomorrow’s possibilities. It means recognizing that His grace is meeting us here—in this ordinary moment, this unanswered prayer, this quiet morning, this unexpected detour.

    Perhaps the miracle is not only that God brings us through, but that He never leaves us while we’re in it.

    May we become people who notice His presence before the breakthrough, within the process, and beyond the blessing. Because when we remain present with God, we discover He has been present with us all along.

    Being brave,

    Michelle 🌿

    ©️Intimately Worded, Michelle

    Journal Prompt

    Where have I overlooked God’s presence because I was focused on His promises?

    Take a few moments today to reflect on your own “in-between.” Where has God quietly sustained you, redirected you, comforted you, or carried you before the outcome arrived? Write down three moments—no matter how ordinary—that reveal His presence was with you all along.

  • Holding Both: Between Fear and Faith

    Sundays gently invite reflection.

    Sacred Space: The Pauline Apothecary TeaBar

    Today, I’m still processing my mammogram. Softly. Practically. I’m allowing myself to acknowledge the uncertainty without allowing it to become the entire story. Waiting has never been easy for me, but I am learning that there is a quiet strength in resisting the urge to write an ending before life has had a chance to unfold.

    This Sunday has been an invitation to hold more than one truth at a time. Between moments of wondering, I found myself working on my podcast and outlining a trauma workshop that has been quietly taking shape in my heart. As I organized my notes, I was unexpectedly drawn toward accreditation courses and advanced training. One idea led to another until I realized I wasn’t simply researching credentials—I was rediscovering something about myself.

    I love teaching. Not simply standing in front of a room, but creating spaces where people understand themselves more deeply. Whether through therapy, writing, workshops, or conversations, education has always been one of the ways I love people well.

    It felt less like discovering a new dream and more like remembering an old one. Then another thought quietly found its way in.

    Am I too late to dig deeper?
    It’s an honest question, especially in my fifties. We begin to wonder if we’ve missed our moment. Is there enough time to pursue another certification? To build something new? To step into another calling? But perhaps I’ve been asking the wrong question. Maybe everything I’ve lived has prepared me for this season.

    The losses. The joys. The years of parenting.
    The years of counseling. The heartbreaks that taught compassion. The healing that taught grace. None of it has been wasted.

    The work I feel drawn toward isn’t disconnected from who I’ve been—it is a continuation of who I am becoming.

    As I sat with these thoughts, another realization settled over me. Being a woman is an ever-evolving journey of care. There are annual exams, mammograms, blood work, conversations about hormones, changing bodies, changing priorities, and the quiet awareness that our health requires a different kind of attention than it once did.

    No one really prepares us for how much emotional energy accompanies caring for our bodies. It’s not just appointments. It’s waiting. It’s wondering. It’s remembering previous biopsies, comparing reports, listening for the phone to ring, and trying not to let fear write stories that haven’t happened. There is nothing small about that.

    And yet, life keeps moving.
    Emails still need answering.
    Ideas still arrive.
    Dinner still needs to be eaten.
    Children still call.
    Dreams still whisper.
    Purpose still knocks.

    Perhaps this is what being human really is.
    A meticulous preparation for living.
    A deliberate practice of loving.
    Learning when to say yes. Learning when to say no. Choosing what deserves our attention.
    Choosing what deserves our peace. Holding hope in one hand while carrying uncertainty in the other.

    Maybe adulthood isn’t about arriving at certainty after all. Maybe it’s about learning to live faithfully in the middle—to trust God with what we cannot yet see —while remaining fully present to the life unfolding right in front of us.
    Today reminded me that anxiety has a convincing voice. It loves unfinished stories. It fills the quiet with possibilities that often never come to pass. It asks, “What if?” over and over again until it begins to sound like certainty.

    But anxiety is not prophecy.

    It is a feeling, not a forecast. It does not know tomorrow. It cannot predict the outcome of a phone call, a doctor’s appointment, or the next chapter of my life. Most importantly, it cannot rewrite God’s faithfulness. Perhaps growing older isn’t asking me to become fearless. Perhaps it’s teaching me that faith has always made room for fear—it simply refuses to let fear have the final word. So today, I am choosing to nourish more than my fears.

    I am eating well. Resting. Dreaming. Planning.
    Researching. Praying. Laughing.

    Building workshops that haven’t yet been taught.
    Preparing conversations that haven’t yet been recorded. Imagining classrooms I haven’t yet stepped into. Trusting that purpose doesn’t retire simply because I have entered my fifties. If anything, it has become more refined, more intentional, and more deeply rooted in the woman God has been shaping all along.

    There is another appointment on my calendar.
    There are workshops waiting to be built.
    There are conversations waiting to be recorded.
    There are women I have yet to meet.
    Stories I have yet to write. Classrooms I have yet to step into.

    Today, I am holding both.
    The uncertainty and the hope.
    The practical next steps and the quiet prayers.
    The changing body and the growing purpose.
    The questions I cannot answer and the life that continues unfolding anyway.

    Perhaps this is one of the quiet gifts of growing older—not that life becomes easier, but that we become more willing to live faithfully in the middle of it. We stop demanding certainty before we move. We learn that courage isn’t the absence of fear; it’s choosing to keep living while we wait.

    And perhaps the quiet between isn’t empty at all.
    Perhaps it is where God continues preparing us—for deeper work, deeper love, deeper faith, and the courage to keep becoming.

    Tomorrow will bring whatever tomorrow brings.
    Today, I will nourish my body, tend to my purpose, trust God’s heart, and hold both.
    Between fear and faith.

    For today, that is enough.

    Being brave,

    Michelle.

    ©️Intimately Worded, Michelle

  • The Seventh Wonder: Grace

    The Seventh Wonder: Grace

    Graced for More

    There’s something special about July.

    The seventh month quietly invites me to pause. It isn’t the excitement of a new year or the anticipation of autumn. Instead, it feels like a gentle checkpoint—a place where I can stop long enough to ask myself, How am I really doing?
    This first week of July has found me reflecting more than usual.

    I’ve been taking inventory. Not the kind of inventory that measures success by accomplishments or compares my life to someone else’s timeline. Rather, the kind that requires honesty, courage, and enough grace to tell the truth without condemning myself.

    I’ve reflected on parenting.
    No matter how old our children become, parenting continues to shape us. There are moments I’m incredibly proud of, moments I wish I could relive, conversations I would handle differently, and seasons that stretched me beyond what I thought I could bear. Yet, through every chapter, love has remained constant. Perhaps that’s one of the greatest gifts of parenthood—we learn that perfect isn’t the goal. Faithful love is.

    I’ve reflected on singleness.
    Singleness has taught me things marriage never could have. It has uncovered places where I’ve grown stronger, where I’ve healed, and where I still carry hope. There have been disappointments, unmet expectations, and relationships that simply weren’t meant to continue. There have also been beautiful reminders that waiting is not the same as being forgotten.

    Then there are relationships. The journey of loving people—and allowing yourself to be loved—isn’t simple. There have been hopes that never unfolded, missteps I wish I could undo, and mistakes that could break anyone’s heart. Some lessons arrived gently. Others demanded tears before they revealed their purpose.

    Yet I remain here.
    Still believing in love.
    Still believing people can heal.
    Still believing that God writes stories we could never script ourselves.

    I’ve also been taking inventory of practical things.
    My finances. My goals. My dreams. The life I’m building. The spaces I’m organizing. From decluttering closets to organizing my budget, I’ve realized both require similar questions: What belongs? What no longer serves me? What am I making room for? And yes…I’ve even laughed to myself wondering if this is finally the year I’ll commit to playing the lottery. Probably not. But it’s funny what crosses your mind when you’re dreaming about possibilities.

    The question that keeps returning, though, is much deeper: Am I still walking within God’s will for my life? Not someone else’s expectations. Not society’s timeline. Not the pressure to have everything figured out by now.

    Simply God’s will.
    Because I’ve learned that faithfulness doesn’t always look flashy. Sometimes it looks like showing up to work. Paying your bills. Loving your family well. Resting when you’re tired. Saying no when your spirit says no. Continuing to hope after disappointment. Trusting God one ordinary day at a time.

    Perhaps the hardest inventory of all has been extending grace to myself.
    Self-grace sounds beautiful until it’s time to practice it. I’m often harder on myself than anyone else could ever be.

    I’ve never been one to look for shortcuts. I’ve always believed in doing the work, taking the longer road if necessary, and building a life with integrity. There are consequences to choosing the long way around. Progress can feel slower. Success may arrive later than expected. Sometimes you wonder if everyone else discovered a map you somehow missed.

    But I also know this: The long road has introduced me to a deeper version of myself. It has strengthened my faith. It has refined my character.
    It has taught me that love is less about arriving and more about becoming.

    Maybe that’s what this season is really teaching me.

    To become someone who allows herself to be loved while continuing to love others well. To celebrate growth instead of perfection. To trust God’s pace instead of my own. To believe that every chapter—even the difficult ones—has been shaping something beautiful.

    As July unfolds, my prayer is simple.
    May I continue taking honest inventory without losing hope. May I organize my heart as carefully as I organize my home. May I steward my finances with wisdom, my relationships with intention, and my dreams with open hands. Most of all, may I remember that God’s grace has always been greater than my regrets. And perhaps that’s the sweetest place to begin again.

    The greatest wonder isn’t that I’ve built the perfect life. It’s that God has sustained me through every imperfect season with grace.

    Gracefully, M.🌻

    “Let us search out and examine our ways, and turn back to the Lord.” Book of Lamentations 3:40

    ©️Intimately Worded, Michelle

  • Distorted is the View: When a Story Invites You to Stay

    Book Review: First Novel

    Some books entertain us. Some books educate us.
    And then there are books that invite us to sit down, settle in, and stay awhile.

    Recently, I had the privilege of reading, “Distorted is the View” by Khaya Ronkainen, and I found myself lingering long after I had closed the pages.
    As a therapist, my mind is often moving—holding stories, solving problems, making connections, and creating space for others. It is rare that a book quietens my brain. Yet, that is exactly what happened while reading this story.

    I was drawn into the lives of the characters in a way that felt both gentle and profound. I found myself invested not only in the main characters, but in the entire ecosystem of their lives—the family unit, their friendships, their adversaries, and the protectors who emerged along the way. Each relationship seemed to matter. Each person carried weight.

    Perhaps what captivated me most was the story’s generational reach.

    The choices made by one generation echoed into the next. The wounds, the resilience, the love, the misunderstandings, and the hope all seemed to ripple outward, reminding me that our lives rarely belong only to us. We inherit stories. We shape stories. And whether intentionally or unintentionally, we leave stories behind.

    There were moments while reading when I found myself pausing—not because the story was difficult, but because it felt familiar in the way all deeply human stories do. The questions of belonging, connection, identity, and legacy are ones many of us carry. Khaya’s writing invites readers to sit with those questions rather than rush past them.

    As I reflected on the book, I found myself thinking about the television series, “This Is Us.” Not because the stories are the same, but because both invite us to consider the complexities of family, identity, memory, and belonging. Reading. “Distorted is the View” felt like stepping into Khaya’s imagination and witnessing how deeply she understands the impact of human connection across generations.

    For those who appreciate stories that are character-driven, emotionally layered, and reflective of the complexities of family life, this book offers something special. It is the kind of story that encourages readers to slow down and pay attention.

    And perhaps that is one of the greatest gifts a book can offer in a world that moves so quickly. I was honored when Khaya shared that she would like to include an excerpt from my review among the early praise for the book. To know that my words resonated with her is a gift I do not take lightly.

    If you’re looking for a thoughtful summer read that explores relationships, legacy, and the enduring impact of our shared humanity, I encourage you to learn more about “Distorted is the View” and Khaya’s work here:

    https://www.khayaronkainen.fi/distorted-is-the-view/

    Books have a way of finding us when we need them. This one found me at just the right time.

    Intimately Worded, Michelle🌿

    Michelle Tillman, LCMHC| Therapist, Writer & Host of Let’s Circle Back Podcast 💛

  • Sunny with a Chance of Flowers🌺

    Sunny with a Chance of Flowers🌺

    What Recovery Is Teaching Me About Self-Care and Self-Awareness

    Sunday Walks

    There is something about recovery that slows life down enough for you to notice it.

    This past week, as I continue healing after surgery, I found myself looking at self-care through a different lens. Not as another task on a checklist. Not as something to squeeze into a busy schedule. But as an invitation to become more aware of myself.

    Awareness is funny that way. It often arrives quietly.

    This weekend was filled with little discoveries.

    During a wine-shopping trip, I stumbled across a no-sugar white wine. The name alone made me smile: Sunny with a Chance of Flowers. Isn’t that delightful? Sometimes joy shows up in the smallest places—a clever label, an unexpected find, a moment that makes you pause and grin.

    I finally sat still long enough to do an at-home facial.

    Friends, stop sleeping on your facial hygiene.

    There is something deeply satisfying about taking twenty minutes to care for your skin. It felt less like beauty maintenance and more like an act of honoring myself. The warm water, the cleansing, the quiet attention—it was invigorating. A reminder that tending to ourselves is not vanity. It is presence.

    I also reached out to my best friend from high school.

    We laughed until we could hardly catch our breath. Our conversation wandered through aging, menopause, parenting adult children, grandmothering, dating in our fifties, and the beautiful freedom of loving our “no.”

    At one point, we found ourselves discussing retirement.

    Retirement.

    How did we get here?

    I am still chuckling about it.

    There is a unique comfort in friendships that have witnessed multiple versions of you. Friends who knew you before the responsibilities, before the heartbreaks, before the career milestones, before the wisdom. Friends who can remind you that while much has changed, something essential remains beautifully the same.

    Sunday brought another gift.

    My son and I visited a different park and took a walk together. The weather was perfect. The kind of day that reminds you God is generous with simple things—sunshine, fresh air, movement, conversation, and time.

    I love Sundays.

    They feel like a sacred exhale before a new week begins.

    As I prepared for the week ahead, I found myself creating homework assignments for several clients navigating difficult healing journeys. There is a space I deeply cherish as a therapist—the place where my clinical mind meets my therapeutic heart.

    Knowledge matters. Research matters. Interventions matter.

    But so does compassion.

    So does sitting with someone in the uncertainty of becoming.

    So does believing healing is possible even when someone else cannot yet see it for themselves.

    Perhaps that is why this week’s reflections felt so meaningful.

    Recovery has reminded me that self-care is really a self-awareness challenge.

    Can we notice what brings us joy?

    Can we recognize when our bodies need rest?

    Can we make room for friendships that nourish us?

    Can we embrace new seasons without mourning every season that has passed?

    Can we accept that healing is often found in ordinary moments?

    A walk.

    A conversation.

    A facial.

    A glass of wine with an impossibly charming name.

    The older I get, the more I believe that a meaningful life is not built from grand gestures alone. It is built from paying attention. It is built from noticing where grace has quietly settled.

    This week, grace looked like laughter, friendship, recovery, sunshine, meaningful work, and a Sunday well spent.

    And honestly, that feels like a pretty beautiful way to heal.

    Being brave,

    Michelle ✨🌿✨

    ©️Intimately Worded, Michelle

  • Navigating Healing, Solo-Entrepreneurship & All the Feels

    Navigating Healing, Solo-Entrepreneurship & All the Feels

    Sunday is feeling like thriving, good hope and reset.

    Today, I moved about my day intentionally—honoring Sundays, my time, my work and my SelfCare. One facial mask and folded clothes from the dryer later, I bake brownies and I write. There is something sacred about slow Sundays when you are rebuilding your life from the inside out.

    Lately, I’ve been leaning into singleness again with greater determination. Soft, yet strategic boundaries. My time is valuable now in ways I understand differently at 55. Peace has become expensive and I no longer hand it out freely in exchange for inconsistency, confusion or potential.

    I’m also leaning into entrepreneurship with greater wisdom and patience.

    Building something meaningful alone is isolating. Lonely. Hard.

    There are no standing ovations for the backend work. No applause when you’re troubleshooting systems, learning insurance credentialing, waiting on support tickets, updating websites, responding to inquiries, writing blogs, managing finances and trying not to emotionally collapse under the pressure of uncertainty.

    People often celebrate the finished product without acknowledging the emotional labor of becoming.

    These past few weeks, I’ve been intentionally building my private practice. I established Transitional Pathways PLLC years ago, but this season feels different. More focused. More aligned. Less performative. I’m accepting insurance now, learning new systems, exploring growth and stretching beyond survival mode into sustainability.

    And if I’m honest, there are moments I sit quietly and wonder if I should have started sooner.

    Maybe at 32.
    Maybe at 40.
    Maybe before life happened the way it did.

    Sometimes SoftGirl. Sometimes dinosaur. ✨

    But healing teaches us something entrepreneurship eventually confirms: timing matters.

    Who I am now carries more depth, discernment and emotional clarity than the woman I was decades ago. There is less ego attached to success now and more intention attached to peace. I no longer want to build quickly if it costs me my nervous system, my softness or my relationship with God.

    So I’m learning to build slowly.
    Wisely.
    Honestly.

    I’m learning that entrepreneurship is not simply about money or branding. Sometimes it’s about trusting yourself again after disappointment. Sometimes it’s about believing your voice matters enough to take up space. Sometimes it’s about sitting with loneliness without abandoning your vision.

    And healing? Healing is realizing you can create a beautiful life while things are still unfinished.

    Today, I’m resting.
    Tomorrow, I’ll continue building.

    Both matter.

    — Intimately Worded

  • Softly: Holding Space for My Own Words

    Softly: Holding Space for My Own Words

    There is a specific kind of silence that exists before a breakthrough. It’s the silence of the soil before the first sprout breaks through—a quiet, heavy waiting. For a while, my pen felt like that soil: dormant, yet holding a universe of potential. But lately, there has been a shift. A rejuvenation.

    In my practice, I often tell my clients that healing is not a linear path, but a spiral—we return to old places with new eyes. I am returning to my writing now, not out of the frantic “shoulds” of a career, but because I am learning to love the discipline of it again. As a Black woman and a therapist, my life is often dedicated to holding space for the narratives of others. I witness the trauma, the triumph, and the messy “in-betweens” of the human condition. It is holy work, a ministry of presence, but it requires a different kind of “due diligence” than the creative soul demands.

    I find myself still wondering, What does that diligence look like for me now? It feels like a commitment to the truth that exists outside of a diagnostic manual, a surrender to the promise in Isaiah 43:19: “Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.”

    The Grounding and the Expounding

    Writing is my peculiar grace. It is the only thing I know that can simultaneously ground me and expound me without causing harm. In the clinical world, we talk about “containment”—the ability to hold difficult emotions without being overwhelmed by them. Writing is my ultimate container. It roots me in the present moment, in the physical sensation of the word meeting the page, yet it allows my spirit to expand, to reach toward truths I didn’t know I was carrying. It is a soft place to land and a vast place to fly.

    The Shadow of the Teenager

    I was a writer long before I was a therapist. Long before the degrees, the licenses, and the clinical formulations, there was just Michelle and her notebook. Yet, as I sit to work on my first book, I often feel a familiar shadow. It’s that awkward, “weird” teenage version of myself. She’s still there, hovering over the keyboard, whispering doubts about whether these words are enough to merit an editor or a place on a shelf.

    In therapy, we might call this “ego state” work. I have to remind that younger version of me that she doesn’t have to carry the weight of the book alone. We are doing this together now. I am the woman I needed back then, and she is the spark I need right now. We are no longer in the desert; the river is starting to flow.

    The Muse of the Blog

    While the book feels like a marathon, this blog—Intimately Worded—has become my muse. There is an ease here. Publishing a post feels like a deep, collective exhale. It is the training ground for my bigger dreams. And yes, I have those dreams: to be the famous, money-making author, to see my name in lights not for my clinical notes, but for the soul I pour into my prose.

    I am skilled in clinical writing, yes. I can draft a treatment plan with my eyes closed, weaving logic and empathy into a professional narrative. But there is a different magic in “playing with words” just for the sake of the play. It is where my spirit breathes.

    “You Are Such a Michelle”

    Whenever I find myself caught in the web of my own complexity—the therapist analyzing the writer, or the writer questioning the therapist—I hear my mother’s voice. I can hear the specific tone, that familiar cadence that only a mother can have.

    “You are such a Michelle.”

    I repeat those words to myself like a mantra. In her tone, it isn’t a critique; it’s an acknowledgement of my essence. It’s a reminder that I am allowed to be all of it: the skilled clinician, the ambitious dreamer, the spiritual seeker, and the woman who is finally, discipline by discipline, coming home to her words.

    Writing out of love is the highest form of rejuvenation. The “new thing” is here. I am grounded, I am perceived, and I am ready to see where the words take me next.

    Being Brave,

    Michelle

    ©️Intimately Worded, Michelle

  • Recovering + Healing Intimately Worded

    Something New: May Is Coming, and So Am I

    Essentials: Vitamins •Water •Writing

    There is something humbling about surgery.

    About being placed on a table. About surrendering control. About waking up and realizing your body has been altered in ways you cannot immediately see but can absolutely feel.

    My surgery was successful. I am healing. I am grateful.

    And yet.

    There is a quiet grief in realizing your body is no longer arranged the way it once was. Nothing cosmetic. Nothing dramatic to the outside world. But internally — something is missing. Removed because it was making me sick. Removed so I could live healthier.

    Still, the body keeps record.

    And sometimes, in the quiet of the evening, I feel like I am living in a body that is familiar… yet slightly foreign.

    I am told I will feel better. I am told my energy will return. I am told my body will thank me.

    I believe that.

    But healing is not just physical. It is relational. It is emotional. It is spiritual. And this is where my Tribe stepped in. There is nothing like being taken care of when you are the one who is usually strong. The helper. The therapist. The one holding space.

    To have meals brought. To receive check-in texts.
    To be told, “Rest. I’ve got this.” That kind of love softens something in you. Support is not a luxury. It is a lifeline.

    We were never designed to white-knuckle recovery alone. Independence is admirable. Isolation is not. My healing has been wrapped in the hands of people who showed up without being asked twice. That is sacred.

    And something else surprised me.

    Before surgery, I was placed on a restricted diet. Very clean. Very intentional. No rushing. No drive-through. No emotional snacking between sessions. And I liked it.

    I felt clearer. Lighter. More disciplined in a way that did not feel punishing. I enjoyed cooking at home. I enjoyed sitting with my meals. I enjoyed honoring my body instead of negotiating with it.

    There is a lesson there.

    Sometimes what feels like limitation is actually refinement.

    May is approaching.

    May carries warmth. Flowers. New light. But for many of us, it also carries the tender ache of Mother’s Day. The grief of what was. The grief of what wasn’t. The grief of what we hoped would be different by now.

    I feel that too.

    Healing in one area does not erase longing in another.

    But this quarter of the year — I want better.

    Better health. Better boundaries. Better nourishment. Better stewardship of my body and my time.

    Not perfection. Just better. More aligned.

    If surgery taught me anything, it is this: your body will force the conversation you have been postponing.

    Slow down. Eat differently. Let people help you.
    Grieve what changed. Welcome what remains.

    My body is not new. It carries scars. It carries history. It now carries absence. But it also carries resilience.

    And perhaps this is what May is offering — not reinvention, but renewal.

    A gentler strength.
    A supported healing.
    A deeper listening.

    If you are entering this month with hope and grief sitting side by side, you are not alone.

    Take the help. Eat the meal at home. Rest when your body whispers. Let love find you in your most human places.

    May is coming.

    And so are we. 🌿🌻🌿

    Being brave,

    XOXO 💕

    ©️Intimately Worded, Michelle

  • The Sacred Weight of Saturday

    Leaning in when it hurts

    Sacred Spaces

    There is a sacred weight that comes after a full week of holding space. Not heaviness in the sense of burden — but weight in the sense of responsibility. Reverence. Witnessing.

    As a trauma-informed therapist, my weekdays are filled with stories that require careful hands. Stories of betrayal. Survival. Attachment wounds. Quiet resilience. Women untangling patterns that have lived in their nervous systems for decades. Couples learning to speak without armor. Individuals confronting memories that once silenced them.

    I hold tears.

    I hold silence.

    I hold breakthroughs that tremble on the edge of becoming.

    And when the week ends, I can feel it in my body.

    The sacred weight.

    The Saturday Morning Ritual

    This morning, I woke up thinking about healing.

    Journal prompts floated through my mind.

    Therapeutic tools. Conversations that are still unfolding in my clients’ lives.

    When you are called to this work, it does not clock out at 5:00 p.m. It lingers — not because of poor boundaries, but because you care deeply. Because people trust you with their most fragile truths.

    But Saturday arrives differently. Saturday invites ritual. The slow pouring of coffee. The warmth of the mug resting in my palms.

    The unhurried light slipping through the window.

    The deliberate inhale — not for grounding a client — but for grounding myself.

    This is not accidental. It is intentional decompression.

    Trauma work requires regulation. And if I teach nervous systems how to settle, I must model that practice in my own body.

    Saturday mornings have become my personal re-entry.

    I move from “holding others” back into “inhabiting myself.”

    Persona Work: Processing the Week

    There is a quiet internal processing that happens on Saturdays. Not clinical documentation. Not treatment planning. But persona work.

    I gently ask myself:

    What did I carry this week? What did I absorb? What stirred something in me? Where did I feel especially protective? Where did I feel tender?

    This is the part no one sees — the therapist tending to her own interior world.

    Because trauma-informed care is not just a framework. It is a posture. And posture requires alignment. Saturdays allow me to realign. To release stories that are not mine. To return prayers back to God. To loosen the subtle muscular tension that comes from being steady for others.

    The Permission to Pause

    But today… I pause.

    Because the same God who calls me to pour out also calls me beside still waters. If I only embrace the “pouring out,” I distort the calling. Rest is not indulgence.

    It is obedience.

    The joys of the journey are not only found in the breakthroughs. They are in the restoration. In the quiet laughter. In music playing softly through the house. In a walk with no agenda.

    In breathing deeply enough to feel my own soul again.

    •Saturday Selflove looks like choosing myself without guilt.

    •SelfCare looks like trusting that the world will not collapse if I am not actively fixing it.

    •Slow downs look like surrender — not striving.

    Making Room for Joy

    Trauma work can be sacred.

    But joy is sacred too.

    And Saturdays make room for it.

    Room for softness. Room for celebration. Room for delight that has nothing to do with productivity.

    I am learning to love what Saturdays bring.

    Not just productivity… but presence.

    Not just healing for others… but restoration for me. Not just discipline… but delight.

    Because restoration is not separate from purpose.

    It sustains it.

    “The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want…

    He restores my soul.” — Psalm 23:1–3

    The sacred weight of the week is real. But so is the still water. And the joys of the journey are here too.

    And maybe Saturday is an invitation for you too.

    Not to do more. Not to become more.

    But to return.

    Return to your breath.

    Return to your body.

    Return to the quiet places where God meets you without performance.

    Let today be enough.

    Let rest count.

    Let joy be holy.

    Being brave,

    Michelle

    ©️Intimately Worded, Michelle

  • #CrossingBridges:

    The Third Day Promises: Healing is Agency

    Nature Walk♥️

    Where Lent Found Me

    Lent met me in the present this year. Not in old wounds. Not in childhood memory. Not in something buried. But in something current.

    I was recovering from a breakup I was growing in; it had great potential. There was no explosion.

    No dramatic ending. Just the quiet understanding that something meaningful had run its course.

    And even when you accept that with maturity —there is still grief. The kind that lingers. The kind that shows up in ordinary evenings.

    While Falling Forward

    I felt the need for structure. So I went dry.

    I walked more. I paid closer attention to what entered my body. I thought I was already mindful.

    But intentional seasons reveal subtle attachments. It wasn’t about food. It was about comfort. It was about what I reached for when I didn’t want to feel the weight of missing someone.

    The Moments I Leaned In

    There were evenings when I felt the ache more than usual. I would stand in the kitchen —

    not hungry, just unsettled. And I sensed it quietly:

    Stay here.

    “Be still, and know that I am God.” — Psalm 46:10

    Stillness felt harder than indulgence.

    But stillness was where clarity lived.

    So instead of soothing myself outwardly,

    I turned inward. Instead of numbing, I walked.

    Instead of filling silence. I let it hold me. Solitude is a practice of extending self- grace.

    Easter Sunday: Third Day Promises

    The Third Day has always meant resurrection.

    But this year, it meant the in-between.

    The space between surrender and rising.

    The quiet before clarity.

    “And we know that all things work together for good…” — Romans 8:28

    Even this. Even endings that didn’t break me —

    but stretched me. I realized I wasn’t in collapse.

    I was in refinement.

    The Better of Things

    What surprised me most was not the discipline around my body. It was the clarity around my calling. There has been a gentle stirring in me —to expand professionally. To step more fully into my work as a therapist. To build with greater intention.

    There are rooms I feel called to walk into now — not from lack, but from readiness.

    Grief clarified my capacity. I am not shrinking.

    I am strengthening.

    What I Know

    Healing is Agency. It’s choosing differently, even when it’s hard. This season taught me, Healing this Lent wasn’t dramatic. It was disciplined. It was honest. It was present. Spiritual intimacy, for me, became alignment.

    Alignment between: what I feel

    what I release

    what I consume

    what I build

    The Third Day reminds me that resurrection is not always loud. Sometimes it looks like:

    acceptance,

    a long walk,

    a closed chapter,

    and quiet courage.

    I am still becoming.

    And that feels enough.

    Being brave,

    Michelle

    ©️Intimately Worded, Michelle