Tag: openheart

  • Healing: A Season of Solitude

    The Journey of Journaling

    There are seasons in life when healing doesn’t arrive with a clear roadmap. There are no ten steps, no quick formulas, no perfectly outlined path back to ourselves. Instead, healing often arrives quietly—through awareness, compassion, and the courage to sit with our own hearts.

    Recently, while waiting for my daughter in a parking lot, I opened my journal and wrote the following:

    “My body spoke to me: rest. I woke up and decided against attending church. I snacked on fruit and nuts while I completed notes. I took a 2-hour nap. I awoke rested.

    I took a photo of the sunflower in my vase catching the sunlight.

    Loving thing to remember: I am loveable. This season of solitude is healing. I miss his presence, the comfort he gave. I am better than ok.

    When I read those words again later, I realized something important: healing had already begun before I ever tried to “figure it out.”

    Listening Instead of Fixing

    In a culture that often pushes us to move quickly through discomfort, solitude can feel like something we must escape or rush through. But sometimes the most honest thing we can do is pause long enough to listen.

    On that particular day, my body asked for rest. Instead of overriding the signal, I honored it. I skipped church, completed the work that needed my attention, ate something simple, and allowed myself a nap.

    That decision wasn’t dramatic or heroic. It was simply attentive.

    Healing often begins in these quiet moments—when we stop trying to control the process and start listening to what our bodies and spirits need.

    The Beauty That Returns

    Light & Shadows ✨

    What surprised me most about that day wasn’t the rest. It was the moment of beauty.

    I found myself taking a picture of a sunflower sitting in a vase, illuminated by sunlight. It wasn’t an extraordinary scene, yet something about the light felt warm and alive.

    When our hearts begin to heal, we start noticing small beauty again. Light through a window. A quiet moment. The stillness of a flower catching the sun.

    These small recognitions are not trivial; they are signs that the nervous system is settling and the heart is slowly reopening.

    Holding Multiple Truths

    Another realization came as I reread my journal entry: healing doesn’t require us to deny what we feel.

    I wrote honestly that I miss his presence and the comfort he once gave. Missing someone does not mean we are broken or moving backward. It simply means the connection mattered.

    At the same time, I affirmed something equally important:

    I am loveable.

    This season of solitude is healing.

    I am better than ok.

    Healing with an open heart means allowing multiple truths to coexist. We can miss someone and still move forward. We can feel tenderness for the past while choosing a healthier future.

    Solitude Is Not Emptiness

    A season of solitude is often misunderstood as loneliness or isolation. In reality, it can be a sacred space where clarity and self-respect deepen.

    Solitude gives us the room to ask gentle questions:

    What does my body need right now? What does peace feel like in my life? What kind of love truly aligns with my values?

    These questions do not demand immediate answers. They simply invite awareness.

    Healing Is Not a Checklist

    There is a temptation to treat healing as a set of steps: forgive, move on, start again. But real healing rarely unfolds so neatly.

    Instead, it grows through:

    Compassion for ourselves when we feel vulnerable.

    Forgiveness, not as a forced act but as a gradual softening of the heart.

    Awareness of our needs, boundaries, and inner wisdoms.

    When we allow healing to unfold naturally, it becomes less about fixing ourselves and more about rediscovering ourselves.

    An Open Heart in a Quiet Season

    That short journal entry reminded me that healing does not always announce itself with grand breakthroughs. Sometimes it appears as rest, sunlight, and the quiet affirmation that we are still worthy of love.

    A season of solitude is not a pause in life. It is a period of listening, growing, and becoming more deeply rooted in who we truly are.

    And from that place, love—healthy, stable, reflective love—has a way of finding us again.

    Until then, we keep listening to the small, wise voice within that says:

    Rest.

    Notice the light.

    Remember—you are loveable.

    I encourage you to trust this part of too.

    Being brave,

    Michelle 🌿

    ©️Intimately Worded, Michelle

  • February Love, dealing with Me.

    me_2016     Where to begin? I believe in love. I believe in the type of love that covers, protects. The love that heals, forgives. The love that encourages, advises. The love that is silent yet quietly completes. I do not anticipate the fairy-tale, the dreamy –sexy-Knight-in-shining-armor type. I do not expect the saintly, mega millionaire to make all my dreams come true. Love is hard work. The type of work that is not for the faint of heart. My heart has been bruised enough. I am not dictating that it will not happen again, hurt has every opportunity as with everything in life. Yet, I will not force pain to remain.

    As of late, I have a mental checklist with my heart and my brain. Another year of no valentine…I contemplate the suggestions family and friends throw my way: join a dating site, do online dating, go to a bar, find someone in the Church, join this, join that. What I realize I never had to join anything to meet either of my ex’s.  Well at 46, I refuse to play any of those games now. I am not putting anyone’s efforts in finding love down. I know what works for me because I know what I want. I am an old soul. I am old-fashion in believing in connections, in happenstance, in chance, in coincidences, “coinkadinks” (as my Momma would say.) The Next One will come.

    So in-between that time and now I work on self.  I process to progress. I heal. I grow. I achieve. I teach.  I help. I am kind. I am there for others as well as myself. I give. I understand. I work. I smile. I encourage. I love. We easily lose sight of others, our friends and family when we lose sight of ourselves. Soul reveal: I do not receive invitations to many things because I am not part of a couple. It does not bother me as much anymore. Time is a precious commodity and if any friendship requires exclusion, that is a terrible loss for all involved.

    There is no self-degradation during this time! Read a book. Watch a movie. Other times I review my week. I think of how many people I helped during the week. I think of how many reached out to me for answers, for a listening ear and I smile. I encourage myself. Surely, what we put out there we will receive back. God’s word says it multiplies. {Ephesians 5:15-17}

    I love that my heart is not as fragile as my first heartbreak. Geez, aren’t they worst? I truly thought I could no longer live. I laugh remembering the woes of a teen. I love the fact that my heart is not bitter and broken from a failed marriage. I love that I understand love with all its simplicity and all its complexity, for all its worth that I would not change. My experiences lead me to who I am becoming. Love does not have to find me. I am not hiding. It is here, it has always been here, waiting for me to discover, uncover, and recover and then love some more. Ever changing. February is Love month, as well as Black History month. February is also the shortest month of the year—dealing with me, well that is 365, 24/7. I am trusting God for my more while protecting the best of me until He delivers. {Jeremiah 29:11}

    “For now remember this. Even though you don’t have what you want right now, keep your heart open anyway. Later, you’ll see more. You’ll see how it worked out. How it needed to be just so.” ~Melody Beattie. 

    Love Self; the rest will come. It all circles back and you will know when you see it. I am learning that we cannot timeline our seasons…spring always follows winter.

    Keep sowing,

    A.Michelle!

  • Clear the gray matter…and smile.

    A person may not have any clue how to care for you. I think we get all inside out about things because we want them to care, to love us back and they simply can’t.

    …it doesn’t make them a bad person nor you inadequate, they just don’t know. The care and the love is indicated when they want to make the time to educate themselves about you. I know it sounds simple enough yet it isn’t. Life can weave things so much so that we damage the simplicity of hope. Oh how we build, subtract, add, wish, become and expect this one person to be our ultimate life changer and when he/she fails… we assume we fail. That just isn’t the case.

    When we rethink and put all the past experiences, the thought processes of “if I would have,” “if I could have only,” and “I should have,”  into an over-thought perspective there isn’t any value gained. Personally, anyone who doesn’t want to better themselves to be an active part of our lives is not quite deserving of our wishful thinking. Do not take a positive newness, an exceptional potential and ruin it due to an inability to get pass the past—-this applies to every aspect of life.

    Clear the gray matter. Life is so much more when we move forward without hinges.

    “Proven throughout time, without reprove….Love gives.” ~Michelle Tillman

    “You do not need to know precisely what is happening, or exactly where it is all going. What you need is to recognize the possibilities and challenges offered by the present moment, and to embrace them with courage, faith and hope.” ~Thomas Merton

     

    My own cup of tea!